Looks Like I’m Becoming My Mother
November 30, 2009 · Print This Article
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My mother is my rock and my love…and she drives me a little crazy. She’s knows me like no one else but she also misunderstands like no other person on earth. But that doesn’t really matter because she’s my mother not my girlfriend.
Now when I had my kids I just knew in my mind that when they became young adults we were going to click and be like best buddies. Well that worked up until they locked me out of their Facebook accounts because I commented on their comments like, well, a mother.
Is it possible to be mother and friend? I think there are some cool mothers out there and they achieve it, but I’m sad to say that I’ve become my mother and the level of “coolness” is looking more and more unachievable.
The frustrating thing is I think my son is truly cool. He’s regimental about protecting the environment. He’s very creative and talented when it comes to film, photography and graphic design and that just makes me smile.
The problem is I have a constant urge to correct him when his vision for a project or future travel plans seem contrary to what I considered a “safe” choice. No way could I allow him to go to Europe by himself this summer – right after he graduates from high school.
No way can I let him hang out with a neighbor after 9 p.m. on a school night. That’s not how “I roll.”
So I have relegated myself to the uncool zone. I guess I’m okay with that because I’m so happy with how my kids have developed so myself and the Mr. must have done something right.
On the other hand I see the looks I’m getting from the kids when I give my long winded explanations defending my view of the world and I say to myself…I’m becoming my mom.
Can you relate?
Just ran across your blog, didn’t want to just read and run. I really enjoyed reading some of your posts. I’m a new mother to a beautiful girl she is 3 months old. I can understand what you mean about becoming your mom, I use to think that I was going to be the coolest mom in the world, I kinda still think that I will be
. Now that I think about her growing up and wanting to do the things that I wanted to do and my mother telling me no, I understand why she wouldn’t let me. There is one thing that I have noticed since becoming a mother I have become closer to my mother, use to maybe a phone call to her every other week, now it is a couple times a week. Crazy how life changes with kids, but it is for the best!
Maybe when they’re older and you’re no longer taking care of them you can be their sorta friend.But as far as it goes you can really only ever be friendly with your children, it’s just not a mutual relationship. But I’m sure your kids appreciate the relationship they have with you even if you are uncool in their eyes.